How To Choose Your First Wedding Song

Your first dance is one of the most romantic and memorable moments of your wedding. Whether you want a classic ballad or a modern love song, the right track should reflect your relationship and personalities.

Here’s how to choose the perfect first dance song for your big day.

What Is a First Dance?

Also known as the Bridal Waltz, the first dance traditionally takes place after dinner and speeches, signaling the start of the party.

However, wedding traditions vary:

• Lebanese weddings start with a pre-dinner bridal waltz to get guests dancing early.
• Jewish weddings often begin with the Hora, with the first dance happening before or after.

A first dance is optional, but it’s a cherished moment for many couples. It’s also a great way to set the tone for a packed dance floor.

Traditional vs. Modern First Dance Songs—Which Should You Choose?

The best first dance songs are timeless. While trends come and go, classics like Etta James’ "At Last" continue to be wedding favorites.

Classic First Dance Songs That Have Stood the Test of Time

• "At Last" – Etta James
• "Can’t Help Falling in Love" – Elvis Presley
• "Unchained Melody" – The Righteous Brothers

Modern Love Songs That May Become Classics

• "Thinking Out Loud" – Ed Sheeran
• "All of Me" – John Legend
• "Halo" – Beyoncé

Tip: Ask yourself, "Will we still love dancing to this song on our 50th anniversary?"

What If You’re Nervous About Dancing in Front of Guests?

Not everyone is comfortable performing for an audience. If you’re feeling nervous:

• Choose a slow, acoustic song that doesn’t require fancy footwork.
• Keep it short—pick a song under three minutes or ask your band to shorten it.
• Practice together at home to build confidence.

Easy-to-Dance-To First Dance Songs

• "Perfect" – Ed Sheeran
• "A Thousand Years" – Christina Perri
• "Make You Feel My Love" – Adele

How to Choose a First Dance Song That Reflects Your Relationship

If you don’t already have a "your song," here are some ways to find one:

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• Think about songs that remind you of special moments in your relationship.
• Consider lyrics that reflect your journey as a couple.
• Browse "best wedding song" lists or listen to wedding music playlists.
• Ask your wedding band or DJ for recommendations.

Start Your Marriage on the Right Note

Your first dance should feel authentic, special, and uniquely yours. Whether you choose a classic love song, a modern hit, or something unconventional, it should represent your love story.

Need help choosing or performing your first dance song? Contact Red Soda Band to create a live music experience tailored to your big day.